This past weekend I was talking to a friend about thank you cards and we came to the conclusion that they just aren’t sent anymore. I was sent at least 3 high school graduation invitations this year and sent each of them a visa gift card in the mail with a nice congratulatory card. I received one thank you card back. Had those been my kids I would have made them write a thank you to every single person who sent them a gift, no matter how big or small. I wrote thank you cards for both high school and college graduation gifts, as well as every wedding and baby shower I’ve ever had. I can’t imagine NOT letting someone know how much you appreciate their gift. They didn’t have to get anything, it was a choice!
Are thank you cards unnecessary? Am I just being petty whining about not receiving 2 out of 3? I’m beginning to think common courtesy and manners are dying a slow death. I was taught to be grateful and show appreciation. I will teach my kids the same thing. Even as young as 8 I have told K before each of his parties to always say thank you even if it’s something he already has, and to be grateful that he even received a present. While I don’t make them write than you cards for birthday or Christmas gifts, I will once they send out graduation invitations.
The responsibility falls on the parents here. They obviously didn’t teach their kids to write thank you cards, nor did they make them take time to sit down and write them. Maybe it’s a regional thing and thank you cards just aren’t important in other parts of the country. So what does any rational person do when they don’t know the answer? Take to Google, of course! I came across an article on Emily Post titled “Thank-You Notes: To Send or Not To Send.” This article states that hand-written thank you notes should be sent for each of the following: shower gifts, wedding gifts, congratulatory gifts, gifts received during an illness, and condolence gifts. I completely agree with all of those, and while I have received thank you notes for a lot of those in the past, it seems as if written thank yous for showers and congratulatory gifts just aren’t happening anymore. It really wouldn’t even have to be hand-written in this technological age… A text or email with a photo of your gift being used is wonderful, too. I had a friend send me a photo text of her new baby wrapped in a blanket I had gotten her as a gift and it was so sweet!
So obviously the lack of thank you cards has bothered me lately. I know they get sent because I sell a lot of stationery and thank you cards in my Etsy shop! They just must not be sent around here. I should probably just get my panties out of a wad though. There are far more important things to worry about in life 🙂