I’m just an introvert with RBF.
As a teenager I was pretty outgoing and never shy. I’m not sure when I changed or why, but as an adult I am very shy and uncomfortable in situations where I only know one or two people. I have lost “friends” because of this, but in reality I have come to realize they weren’t really friends if they didn’t like me for who I am, and THIS is who I am.
By definition an introvert is someone who is more preoccupied with his or her own thoughts and feelings and one who minimizes contact with other people – Someone who enjoys doing things alone as opposed to with a group. Movies, reading, fishing, running, etc. This is me exactly. I would much rather me at home watching a movie with my family or reading a book than attending your mixer or product launch party. Send me an online party invite and I am there! Make me come and test the products and you probably won’t see me. If you invite me to go out to eat or come over to hang out and don’t mention other people, I assume it will just be you and me. When I get there and there are a lot of other people there I don’t know at ALL, I will not be good company and I highly doubt I will ever accept your invitation again. It’s nothing against you, it’s just who I am, and I am sorry that makes me seem like a bitch, because I promise you I am not trying to be.
So RBF… If you’ve never heard of it, it’s short for resting bitch face, which apparently is a “thing” these days and has landed itself a hilarious category in Urban Dictionary. People are always asking me what’s wrong or if I’m mad. NO, I’m fine, that’s just my face! My husband is always telling me I’m frowning or look pissed, but I’m not. I’m usually absorbed in my thoughts and making a mental list about something. I think a lot… I am always thinking about something and apparently I get a bitchy facial expression when I’m deep in thought.
I have had multiple people tell me they thought I was a bitch before they got to know me. It really pains me to know that people think this about me before they get to know me, but I guess I just put off that vibe. I’m really not a bitch… I will speak my mind and be that friend who will always tell you the truth… Why would you want friends who always sugar-coat things for you?
If you’re like me and people are always asking if you’re mad, sad, angry, etc. just let them think whatever. The people closest to us and who matter most should KNOW how we really are. The rest of the world doesn’t matter.